The Hidden History Inside Your Love Life
From a recent podcast episode on the You Good Show
Whether you’ve been single for a while, or feel lonely inside a relationship, the ache for the connection we truly long for can run deep.
In a recent You Good? podcast conversation with Claire Khodara, we spoke about something most people never take into consideration when trying to solve our most precious puzzle: relationships.
And that is this.
Thousands of years of distorted — not to say tortured — masculine–feminine dynamics have been woven into our biology.
Not as theory.
But as lived experience shaping our daily lives, often without us even realizing it.
These patterns did not begin with you.
And they are not a personal failure.
There is a vast body of research showing that what our ancestors felt, believed, and lived by continues to inform our own emotions, thoughts, and behaviors.
Wild, right?
Maybe sometimes you think there is something wrong with you. Or your partner.
But what if both of you have simply been running on inherited programs neither of you consciously chose, repeating patterns that never truly worked to begin with?
What if the love between you is real, already there beneath the surface, and what’s needed isn’t more effort, but the right tool to bypass a history etched into your bones long before you arrived?
No wonder love can feel confusing.
Or exhausting.
Or just out of reach.
In the podcast, we explore why so many women repeat relationship dynamics they deeply want to break, and why our nervous systems tighten even when we long to open to love.
This is why I love placing love inside its historical context.
It gives you real leverage to understand what is actually going on, and how to bring about a shift in your love situation quickly and gracefully.
It is astonishing how fast things can change once you can see behind the curtain of a drama that never truly suited us.
And perhaps most importantly, this understanding allows you to move out of blame — of yourself or your partner — and into genuine compassion.
Once you know how, that shift can happen in an instant.
We also spoke about how embodying feminine energy doesn’t fix these dynamics. It dissolves them.
If you long for deeper connection and love, this conversation may offer relief, hope and perhaps a deep exhale.
You are not late to the love party.
You are not broken.
There is an abundance of love and connection available to all of us.
And you are in exactly the right place to create profound shifts in the quality of your relationships when you learn the right tools.