How Some Women Turn Princes into Frogs (Instead of Kings)

What if we, women, have been turning princes into frogs, not by what we do outwardly, but by how we relate to men internally?

We all know of the fairytale: you kiss a frog, and he turns into a prince. But what if, without realizing it, we sometimes do the reverse? What if we, women, have been turning princes into frogs, not by what we do outwardly, but by how we relate to men internally? Without knowing we have done so? Oh no.

I know this isn’t exactly politically correct, but men and women are very different. One of the sneakiest ways we inadvertently turn men into frogs is by assuming they are essentially women with penises, as if the only meaningful difference between us were anatomical. When we do this, we look at men’s behavior through a female lens and then draw conclusions about their intelligence, their depth, their capacity for love, their care, and even their goodness. We assess them based on how we would think, feel, respond, prioritize, or communicate in the same situation.

Even something as simple as their aversion to multitasking often becomes evidence against them. Because many women can multitask with ease, we interpret men’s preference for singular focus as a lack of intelligence or capability.

Yet men are not built for multitasking, something that can be understood even on the level of hormonal composition.

When we judge them this way, the data we gather about who they are is completely invalid, because we are measuring them against the wrong measuring stick.

Men are not women. They do not think like women, they are not motivated by what motivates women, and they do not hold the same core values or have the same core needs and wounds.

And yet, many of us continue to insist on our interpretations of them, our expectations of them, and our conclusions about who they are based on standards that were never theirs to begin with. No wonder so many men seem to fail to impress us. What often goes unrecognized, and hurts us women the most, is that this sense of never getting it right for us, is one of their deepest pain points. And consequently, they don’t give us more of what we want, but most certainly stop giving us what we so dearly need from them.

The saddest part of all of this is that we end up completely missing how beautiful men actually are. If we could truly see men for who they are, rather than who we think they should be, and if we could grasp what genuinely moves them, what they stand for at their core, and what they are wired to bring into relationship so naturally and generously, many of us would be floored.

And we would probably feel a little embarrassed too, because what we truly and deeply want and need is often something they are already standing there, ready and willing, to give us. If it wasn’t for us, being so busy turning them into frogs that are falling short. Ouch.

So, what if you learned how to be the woman who, by her mere beingness, turns a prince into a king instead of a frog? This is not manipulation, strategy, or performance. It is a learnable skill rooted in understanding, embodiment, and respect for the fundamental differences between masculine and feminine nature. It is about becoming the woman whose presence invites a man to rise into the king he longs to be, and you want to have by your side.

This is a beautiful and mysterious process, one that leaves both partners feeling more seen, more respected, and more at home in love. I know this isn’t the most charming topic, but boy oh boy, pun intended, it is potent. I have seen women make profound shifts, overnight, in their relationships and dating lives to never go back to how it was before. An intimacy and closeness gets created every time you do this – and isn’t that what we all long for?